Orgasm noises

This post will be password-protected (or simply taken down) in 24 hours, because it’s fairly explicit even by my standards, but until then I’m going to make it available to all.

I was having a conversation with someone last night about orgasm faces, and how sexy they are. An orgasm is – or should be – a moment of open, naked, visceral pleasure, when all the control we normally exercise over our appearance disappears completely. When I make someone come, and I see her face contort and redden, or her eyes scrunch together, or her mouth open and gurn, I know it means she’s completely lost in the moment. Lost in whatever it is that I’m doing with/to/for her. That’s really fucking hot.

Anyway, during that conversation I realised that as great as orgasm faces are, orgasm noises can be even better…but only with a partner I know really well. That’s because, even more than facial expressions, they act as a guide to how someone’s feeling, what they want, and what I should – or can – do next. I can take that ragged, whimpering shortness of breath that tells me she’s seconds away, and I can decide exactly what to do with it: press on, with firmer, quicker strokes of my tongue or cock; or ease off, hold back, and make her wait for more.

When my partner’s actually coming, and I know her noises well, I can control them in a way that I can’t with her facial expressions. A hand over her mouth to cut her off mid-moan, or a few whispered words to make her start swearing at me between breaths, or even a couple of extra-hard thrusts as she’s tumbling over the edge, if I want to really increase the volume. At their best, those noises also act as a trigger for my own orgasm, and we end up coming together before collapsing in a big, sweaty, sticky heap of happiness.

Orgasm faces are great because at a moment of huge vulnerability they take everything someone’s feeling and lay it all out there for you to see in an incredibly intimate way. Orgasm noises – however quiet or subtle – go one step further and form an integral part of the communication between you. It’s true that they can also be less honest: I’ve been with people who’ve clearly treated it as a bit of a performance, which is why I need to know someone well to really get off on the sounds they make; I need to trust that they’re ‘real’.

Anyway, I can’t really share my own orgasm face here, for obvious reasons, but I thought I would offer a taste of the sort of noises I make. The video below the jump was filmed a couple of months ago, and the quality isn’t great; it’s also very graphic, so don’t scroll any further if that’s not your thing. Is it ‘real’? Well, I suppose that’s a hard one to answer: all I can say is that for a few seconds, right at the end, I definitely forgot that the camera was there. I had that ‘white light’ moment, where your brain first seems to empty completely, then to explode into a million tiny pieces. It was pretty awesome.