17 Reasons Why Collapsed Doggy is the Best!

Of all the possible topics for a sex blogger to try and cover in an interesting and original way, ‘fucking from behind’ doesn’t exactly feel like the most promising option. Whether they love it or loathe it (and I think it’s fair to say most people fall into the first of those boxes), pretty much everyone has an opinion on doggy sex, or at the very least a working idea of what it involves. What possible value could there be in churning out 2,500 words on what is literally one of the most popular sex positions in the world?

Well apparently that’s just my cross to bear. And obviously Twitter is 100% to blame. A few days ago, I (very approvingly) shared this photo of a variation on what I’ll refer to in this post as ‘regular doggy’. As I said at the time, ‘collapsed doggy’ – where the person getting penetrated sinks down from hands and knees to a largely prone position, while the person doing the penetrating straddles their partner’s ass and moves forward till their arms are either side of their partner’s chest or shoulders – is not only the best way to have PIV sex from behind, it’s one of the best ways to fuck full stop. I followed up what I thought was a relatively uncontroversial opinion with an offhand comment about the ’17 different reasons’ why that was true.

And then someone asked me to list them.

So here you go Quinn, this post is for you. 17 reasons why collapsed doggy is and will always be AMAZING (written from the perspective of the person on top!).

1. When her legs are closer together like that around my dick, penetration does just feel tighter and more intense. I can also feel it much more clearly when someone squeezes their cunt muscles, which makes sense to me; if I sit with my legs close together, it’s both easier and more satisfying to flex my pelvic floor than if I have my legs wide apart (I can really feel it), so why wouldn’t that also be the case for someone being fucked? Especially when their body position means they’re not having to focus on maintaining strength in their arms and thighs.
2. It’s not just tighter, but frequently deeper too. I’m not saying I can’t force my cock all the way in from other positions – including regular doggy – but something about the angle at which her cunt is tilted toward me when she’s on her front like that lends itself to really deep penetration, stroke after stroke. It’s sort of lined up like a target I can’t help hitting, with the added bonus that with each thrust the underside of my cock is pushed straight along the front wall of her vagina – as I don’t have a monster cock where the depth needs to be carefully controlled, that’s something that tends to work for both of us!
3. Speaking of size, getting down lower eliminates any issue with height difference. And no, before you angrily dive into the comments section, I’m very aware that relative height isn’t a factor overall when it comes to sexual pleasure (or dating suitability). However, I also know from experience that if I’m fucking a taller woman – especially one with long legs – it can feel during regular doggy that I’m having to really stretch up on my knees to get the angle right for G-spot stimulation or to really take her hard and deep. All that disappears when she’s on her front rather than her hands and knees, and instead of having to worry about leaning up or putting a pillow under my knees to get a higher entry point, I can move into position and fuck her in the way she wanted to be fucked.
4. Our heads are closer together! It’s not that I can’t bend down and kiss my partner’s neck or bite her shoulder during regular doggy, but when I’m already leaning over her it just feels so much more natural to do so. And more intimate at the same time. Maybe that’s because I can do it without any interruption to rhythm or body shape: a dip of the head, a brush of the lips, and she knows I’m right there on top of her, completely unable to resist planting kisses all over her skin.

5. …and of course every time my mouth gets that close to her head and shoulders, am I going to take the opportunity to whisper something dirty? Almost certainly, yes. And while volume isn’t often a consideration at the moment, there have been enough times over the years when my partner and I have had to account for flatmates/parents/neighbours/etc that being able to breathe a stream of absolute filth in her ear while pinning her under me and holding my dick in her cunt has added a real edge to things.
6. On a similar note, the muffled noises someone makes when I’m really pounding them hard and their face is buried in a pillow or covered with an arm turns me on like you wouldn’t believe. The desperate gasps and deep groans of someone trying and failing to keep control of their physical response to being fucked is unbearably hot, as is the sweat on the back of their neck and the drool and make-up on the pillow when I reach down and turn their head to one side, so I can see the cum-drunk look in their eyes.
7. It looks good! I mean all sex looks good, but one of the things that can occasionally contribute to doggy style feeling a bit detached is catching sight of yourself in the mirror and realising that you can only see your own face – not only that, but it’s staring back at you like Patrick Bateman in American Psycho. That’s not a problem with collapsed doggy. Your heads are closer together, so if you want to watch yourselves in the mirror there’s going to be plenty of eye contact (or moments when you’re both staring straight into the camera if you film it). I also like how my body looks when I’m fucking someone like that; my arms and shoulders are taut, my torso is held in a nice straight line, and my thighs are bunched. That in turn makes me feel good, which is sort of prerequisite for enjoyable sex.
8. Resistance. In my drafts folder, I’ve got a half-finished post on the kind of sex where you both just instinctively know how to find the right pivot points and push against each other; where everything is positioned, angled and held in a way that creates the most amazing physical tension as you move together. Well collapsed doggy only makes that easier. With pretty much all my weight on my arms, and no need for my partner to hold herself up on hers, I can hold myself in place and tense my thighs while she presses down from her pelvis and grinds/rubs her cunt along my cock. It gives us one central connection, through which all our movement is flowing. Can you imagine how incredible that feels??
9. It also provides the perfect foundation from which to thrust. With regular doggy, balance can be an issue, especially as you’re trying to build up a rhythm. That’s because you’re generally holding onto your partner’s hips or ass, and unless you keep a really firm grip, the way they move, shake, shift their own weight, and get pushed forward will inevitably disperse some of the kinetic energy you’re creating with each thrust. There are compensating benefits – you can position them more easily with hands on their waist, for example, which is always hot – but overall it’s just not as stable a base for either of you. Lock your arms against the mattress and tense your thighs either side of her ass though, while she’s pinned down and unable to do anything more than push back against your cock, and you can fuck with complete freedom and no loss of momentum.
10. When she does push back from that really stable base, it’s much more controlled and focused than if she’s doing it from hands and knees. With the tighter grip too, it can feel oddly like she’s riding my cock, and if she knows what she’s doing (and/or has a particularly evil streak) it’s about the closest I ever get to feeling like I’ve been hooked up to some sort of futuristic milking machine, in a society where men are kept in sperm production labs and forcibly stimulated multiple times a day… And yes, I mean that in a good way. Well, unless I’m trying really hard not to come, in which case it feels like the cruellest of tricks to have someone fuck themselves on my cock like that.
11. However, collapsed doggy also makes it easier to play cruel tricks of my own. Clit stimulation isn’t impossible with regular doggy, but it does require a bit more coordination, either to reach round her with fingers or vibe, or to wedge a hand under my cock and between her legs. None of that is necessary if she’s on her front. Instead I can slide a toy – ideally a wand of some kind – under her torso and against her clit, so every time I thrust she’s forced to rub against its vibrating head. Sometimes I don’t even need to move; I can just hold my cock all the way inside her and feel it twitch as the wand works away on her clit and the base of my shaft. In my experience that’s usually pretty effective…
12. Beyond just the mechanics, teasing someone – or forcing them to orgasm – in that position is easier because it also feels more naturally dominant than a more upright form of doggy. Again, that’s not a huge surprise. Closing the gap between your bodies like that doesn’t prevent you from pulling/gripping their hair, digging your fingers into their ass, holding them in place, sliding a hand round their throat or torso, or doing any of the other things that might establish a level of physical dominance when fucking someone – all of those actions are still possible, but with the added bonus of more contact points, easier access to any skin you want to kiss/bite/nuzzle, and a general feeling of looming over them, with much greater control of how much they can move or wriggle (and the satisfaction of easing them down into the bed with one hand while you press your cock head against their G spot and tell them what a good girl they are).
13. That applies also when I don’t have my cock inside them. As we all know, PIV isn’t a linear process; yes I’m fucking you now, and will be fucking you again in a bit, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to stop for a bit and use my fingers, or eat you out from behind, or press that wand against your cunt…or pop my thumb inside your ass and edge myself while you wonder whether I’m going to slip my cock back in or just spunk all over you. All those things are just a little bit easier when you’re on your front and comfortable than when you’re on all fours, and require a bit less effort from you too (though sometimes it’s fun to make you hold a more demanding position). As with those long, smooth thrusts I described earlier, having a pillow under your hips will put your cunt nicely on display for me, so I can switch seamlessly between filling it with my cock and enjoying it in other ways.
14. Ok, this one is a bit niche, but when I’m about to come, one of the hottest things about the collapsed position is being able to pull out and immediately work the head of my cock into her ass, or just press the tip against its entrance, without changing my position at all or stretching up. This is another one where the enhanced/heightened power dynamic comes into play; when I know I have consent to do so, it becomes something I have full control over, and in that case I might move one hand to her shoulder and roughly hold her down, while transferring my weight to my thighs and using my other hand to grab and pull at one butt cheek, opening her up so I can jizz all over or just inside her ass.
15. Speaking of niche reasons: it’s easier on the knees! Obviously there’s a bit more strain on my arms and shoulders, but any time we spend more time lower to the bed, my thighs and particularly my knees thank me afterwards. I dunno, chalk this one up to being 39 not 19, and to having played a lot of sports over the years that have probably left my knees in less-than-ideal shape, but being able to distribute the weight elsewhere is really helpful, certainly for anything more than a quickie. Plus it’s a great upper body workout, which my noodle arms always need.
16. Collapsed doggy lends itself to different speeds and rhythms in a way that the regular kind doesn’t. A lot of that has to do with the intimacy, stability, and resistance I’ve already mentioned, but I think there’s also the fact that you’re both essentially lying down! While I can fuck someone just as hard, just as roughly, in collapsed doggy as in any other position, there’s something magical about the slow, spooning sex late at night or early in the morning (or at the end of an afternoon nap!) that leads to my partner half-rolling onto her front and me easing myself on top of her. In those situations I wouldn’t think to pull her onto her knees – I want the closeness and the gradual build-up of slick sweat between my chest and her back, my stomach and her ass. I want to dip my head and lick it off her skin.
17. Finally, (and this is a hypothetical benefit for now) collapsed doggy looks by far the best position in which to fuck and at the same time to be fucked. I can almost feel it as I type this; the way I’d brace myself on both arms and spread my legs a little wider so someone could squeeze their thick cock inside me, and in doing so push my own cock even deeper into my partner’s cunt. I’d have to hold myself very steady and strong for them, and if the woman taking my cock is very mean, she’ll grind back onto me so I’m overwhelmed with sensation from both sides. Yes please.

So there you have it! 17 solid reasons why collapsed doggy is officially the best. Agree? Disagree? Think this has been a colossal waste of my time and yours? I’d love to hear from you, whichever of those boxes you fall into, so do share your thoughts in the comments below, or hit me up on Twitter!