In 2013, the Pew Research Center published a study looking at the ‘coming out experience’ for different LGBT groups. According to their research, 77% of gay men and 71% of gay women are out to ‘all or most’ of the important people in their life. For bisexual women, that figure drops to 33%. For bisexual men, it’s 12%.
In 2014, I wrote a series of blog posts called ‘On My Sexuality’. Re-reading them now, what really stands out is how light they are on any actual analysis of who and how I love. I think they still hold up pretty well as pieces of writing – and as pieces of decidedly erotic writing in places – but the title is definitely misleading. Whether intentionally or not, I skirted round ‘sexuality’ as a serious topic, in favour of a set of scenarios that make one thing clear without really putting it into words: given the right opportunity, I would fuck – and indeed have fucked – other men.