When I tell people that I have, in the past, faked orgasms, their immediate response typically comes in the form of two questions:
Why? And how??
Contained within those questions are a number of assumptions, about both the way in which penis-owners express and experience pleasure, and their motivations for being physically intimate with another person. Before I talk directly about my own reasons for faking it, it might be useful to unpack and explore a few of those assumptions.